First things first, there’s absolutely nothing wrong with being ‘taken’ in your twenties either. I’m certainly not here to preach breaks ups and single life. i’m just saying, if you do find yourself single, don’t be sad about it – embrace it.
I can honestly speak from experience on this one. Being single can be equally as wonderful.
Of course I see some couples and I’m like, ‘I can’t wait for that’. But I also see other couples and I’m like, ‘thank the lord i’m not dealing with that’.
Being single is a hell of a lot better than spending your youth with the wrong person and having regrets later on. Being in a relationship should only ever enhance your life and your dreams, not hinder it or them.
Right now, I feel pretty fulfilled with my life and it has nothing to do with a guy. Possibly the most liberating feeling ever.
I’ve spent the first half of my 20’s doing everything in this post and I just cannot imagine my life, my career or my friendships any other way. I feel so whole in myself and proud that I’ve spent the time investing in myself. I’m excited for the day I can share that with someone, I really am. But I’m not in a stress about when that day comes.
My happiness is in my hands, it resides within myself first and foremost. I think that’s the most important thing to grasp here.
The most important relationship you will ever have is with yourself. So if you’ve clicked onto this post because you’re comparing yourself to others and freaking out and being single. Let me encourage you to embrace this time and invest it in building the healthiest and strongest relationship with yourself possible.
It’ll be the best decision you ever made.
Knowing who you are and what you want will be the means around which you build yourself a happy life.
If you tie your existence to someone else and never give yourself the chance to discover who YOU really are, how will you know what’s going to make you happy long term?
(You saw it coming!) Move to a different corner of the country if you fancy it, pack your bags and do a year abroad or simply go backpacking for a bit with your best mate.
Being single means… you can just go.
You’ll have no emotional pulls from a relationship swaying your decision and you won’t feel trapped by anything.
Find something that makes you excited to get out of bed in the morning. THIS IS YOUR PRIME TIME.
Often we look to relationships and love when we are like ‘what am I doing with my life’ and we are seeking comfort. Don’t let that be a reason to get in a relationship. Channel that confused, lost energy into your career and into friendships around you. Take time to figure out what makes you tick. It’ll give you the best foundation long term and will mean that you never stay in a relationship because you’re scared of your life without it. Ultimately meaning the relationship will only add to your already wonderful life.
You’ll never have as much energy, drive and spare time as you do now. Forget dreaming about date nights and chilling every weekend with a boyfriend. Throw everything you have at life and CHASE THOSE DREAMS.
Learn how to do things by yourself. It’s great having help from others, but being confident in the knowledge that you could survive by yourself will be your strongest foundation.
It will ensure that you never stay with someone for the wrong reasons, because you know really, you could do it without them.
Get it all out of your system. Do silly things. Stay up all night and go to that after party. Book that trip to Ibiza with your friends this summer. Kiss 3 different people at the same party, waheeeey. I think to be able to settle down, personally, I need to know that I pursued everything I wanted to. I need to know I had my single time. I don’t ever want to be tempted and thinking the grass is greener where it really isn’t. Experience everything.
Do whatever you fancy. Within reason lol, also be sensible! Be selfish and don’t be sorry about any of it. Mistakes are single-handedly the best way to learn and grow.
Let’s face it, some people get a little too comfortable in relationships. So much so, the relationship becomes simply a habit and making any sort of changes becomes pretty daunting.
Being single means you have nothing to fear change of and change actually becomes an exciting prospect. Taking a leap of faith could turn your life upside down and well… bring it on!
Being single mean you only have to worry about number one. If something makes you happy you do it and if it doesn’t you don’t have to. Simple as that.
Enjoy being single, and enjoy your friends being single too! You have the rest of your life to do the whole settling down thing.
In your 20’s you will have the highest percentage of single friends before you get sacked off for engagement parties, family holidays and husbands! Make the most of it/them. Things really do change, in a wonderful way of course, but they change.
Loving yourself is sometimes easier said than done, but it’s the best investment you will ever make.
If you don’t have a healthy relationship with yourself, I can tell you now, you won’t have a healthy relationship with anyone else.
If a relationship didn’t bring you want you wanted, it’ll have showed you what you don’t want. By dating the wrong ones, you’ll know when you’ve found the right one, and when you do you’ll appreciate them more. You’ll have confidence in knowing the grass isn’t always greener and you’ll be less likely to be led astray.
When you settle, you’ll hope it’s for good, so make sure you’ve shopped around first and you won’t want a refund on your final purchase. Loooool.
Love as always + happy adventuring,
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